Not a lot of info to go on here, but I had a thought - maybe it doesn’t apply to you, but I bet it applies to someone.
“Over explaining everything to the point of them tuning out.” Part of the interpersonal interaction of explaining something to someone is that you are expecting to receive a reply from the other person that indicates that they understand what you are telling them. Different people will be satisfied with different replies. I feel like it’s not uncommon for someone on the spectrum to need a kind of clearly stated reply that most people don’t give. In a case like that, you have to be very clear yourself about what you need back from the other person. They may have given what they think is an indication that they understand you, but if you didn’t receive it, there’s the breakdown. Sometimes you have to teach people, even if ever so briefly, how to converse with you for the best results.
Another thought is that no explanation of anything from one person to another will ever produce a perfect understanding in the recipient. Language, culture, how brains work differently - all of these get in the way of understanding to a degree. You’ll usually need to be satisfied with “good enough,” because the other person having the exact same understanding as you is just not possible.
Again, if any of this is off the mark for you personally, please don’t take offense. I am definitely not trying to tell you what to think or how to be. But your post got me thinking about myself, and my interactions with doctors over the years, and these notions have been helpful for me. I hope they can be helpful for you and anyone else who happens to pass by.
Not a lot of info to go on here, but I had a thought - maybe it doesn’t apply to you, but I bet it applies to someone.
“Over explaining everything to the point of them tuning out.” Part of the interpersonal interaction of explaining something to someone is that you are expecting to receive a reply from the other person that indicates that they understand what you are telling them. Different people will be satisfied with different replies. I feel like it’s not uncommon for someone on the spectrum to need a kind of clearly stated reply that most people don’t give. In a case like that, you have to be very clear yourself about what you need back from the other person. They may have given what they think is an indication that they understand you, but if you didn’t receive it, there’s the breakdown. Sometimes you have to teach people, even if ever so briefly, how to converse with you for the best results.
Another thought is that no explanation of anything from one person to another will ever produce a perfect understanding in the recipient. Language, culture, how brains work differently - all of these get in the way of understanding to a degree. You’ll usually need to be satisfied with “good enough,” because the other person having the exact same understanding as you is just not possible.
Again, if any of this is off the mark for you personally, please don’t take offense. I am definitely not trying to tell you what to think or how to be. But your post got me thinking about myself, and my interactions with doctors over the years, and these notions have been helpful for me. I hope they can be helpful for you and anyone else who happens to pass by.