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Cake day: July 26th, 2023

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  • Happy belated birthday!

    My wife also has really bad rejection anxiety, and she’s sensitive about her birthday. She’s had some bad birthdays in the past, and when she tries to turn them around they never live up to expectations.

    Part of the nature of the disorder is that you’re going to focus on the people who didn’t show up. If I might suggest, it would be good to reflect on the people who did show up. They have your back and love you enough to celebrate your birthday with you.

    I’ve done some rounds in therapy, and what I’ve found really works for me is to give people the benefit of the doubt and try my best to assume no malice was intended.

    Your birthday is clearly important to you, so right now it really hurts. It might even feel like betrayal. If we feel very poorly about ourselves then we start to view other people poorly.

    When going through therapy I had to learn a list of Cognitive Biases. These are ways in which our brain lies to us, so if any of them sound familiar you can work on deconstructing them.


    I’m going to try to speculate some reasons why people might not have shown up. If it makes you feel anxious, please bear in mind that I’m only trying to help.

    For what it’s worth, I’m not really a birthday person. My own birthday isn’t important to me, so sometimes I forget that they’re important to other people. It greatly helps if someone says “Hey, this is important to me.”

    You mention inviting 30-50 people. That’s a lot of people. Personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable in a crowd that size, it would make me anxious. I’d also be tempted to think that if that many other people were coming then you wouldn’t miss my absence.

    You also mention inviting people up to two months before the event. Did you make sure to remind people closer to the date?

    If it was me, I’d probably let people know a month and a week away from the date. Too far in the future and people think they don’t have to put it in their calendar right away. Too close to the date and it might be too late to change other plans. Reminders throughout to cement that this is happening.

    Another thing to bear in mind is that if you have ADHD, it stands to reason that friends and family you resonate with are also neurospicy. I’m sure you can probably relate to forgetting an important date or appointment.


    I hope your next birthday is everything you hope it’ll be.


  • The friggin’ dogs in Resident Evil.

    I have a kind of funny story about that. I was too young to be playing RE when it came out, but that didn’t stop me from sneaking it out of my dad’s collection of grownup games to try it anyway.

    So there’s this well known jump scare, probably in the first fifteen minutes as you say where you’re running down a hallway and suddenly some dogs jump through these glass windows. I screamed, fumbled the controller, and was eaten by dogs. Might have been the first jump scare of my life.

    So I hadn’t hit a save point, so you have to start the game over. So I decide to just leave the mansion through the front door instead of going out that way. And you get a cutscene where a dog jumps through the door and you have to wrestle it away.

    I still haven’t played the game since.

    But my wife and I are a big fan of the series, so eventually we decided to marathon them on the condition that she plays RE1. She’s playing the remake and goes into the room where the dogs jump through the windows and I’m holding my breath waiting for it to happen. Only it doesn’t.

    So I’m a little disappointed, but I figure it’s a remake so maybe they’re switching things up a bit and going to put the jump scare somewhere else in the mansion.

    Sooner or later you have to backtrack through that corridor though, and on like the third time going through this “safe” corridor the dogs jump through the window. She screams, fumbles the controller, and is eaten by dogs.

    Seven-year-old me was vindicated that my adult wife also got punked and I’m not alone.





  • At the end of the day, I see cheats as essentially just mods for games. A cheat enables you to do something with the software that you couldn’t before. If everyone has equal access to the mods and agrees at the outset, then who cares? But if you’re the only one in the lobby cheating then you’re probably a jerk who puts their enjoyment ahead of others’.

    If you’re playing by yourself, hack away. Enjoy yourself. You should be allowed to have the maximum amount of fun with your toy.

    If you’re playing with other people, especially against other people, it’s super unsporting. Everyone should have a level playing field.

    Gamers with disabilities opens up sort of a morally gray area. Like, if you only have one hand you’ll have a hard time aiming and shooting at the same time. I could see why someone would be tempted to use an aimbot.

    As far as why cheating seems so prevalent, I place the blame largely with the F2P model. Now, I’m not saying that people aren’t cheating in other games. But if the consequences of getting banned for cheating is that you just have to make a new free account, then you could argue that there aren’t really significant consequences to getting caught. There’s money to be made by cheat vendors on massively popular games, so the free ones make sense to target because the costs are low.

    Worth mentioning: just because you think someone is cheating doesn’t necessarily mean they are. I’ve never cheated in a competitive game but I’ve been called a hacker by poor losers. If you’re looking for a cheater, you’ll likely confirm your biases and find one - whether or not someone was actually cheating.


  • I’m also nostalgic for the era where cheats were easter eggs that enhanced the single-player experience.

    Like, as a kid I was interested in Warcraft/Starcraft, but I’m horrible at RTS gameplay. Cheats gave me an out so that I could enjoy the story.

    Historically, cheats were essentially debug tools that the developer could use to, say, thoroughly play through a level with unlimited lives. But around the 90s/00s you started to see this shift away from using a complicated code of buttons to activate (Konami Code, IDDQD) to a simple to remember phrase (“PowerOverwhelming,”“GiveUsATank,” “GunsGunsGuns”).

    That shift makes me think that the cheats were for the players to enjoy. Otherwise they wouldn’t have fun names to activate them.