Standing up for another’s lived experience is what an ally does. When a queer friend shares their experiences with me, I listen. I don’t dismiss them as paranoid. Whether or not I get Internet points for it doesn’t matter. All the more reason to hear them out, actually, because queer people are not the majority and their perspectives are easy to ignore if what you care about is which side the bigger number is on.
No offense but you aren’t my queer friend. And besides, both things can be true. This expression can strike someone as wrong and it can also be a part of a semantic shift that other people see differently.
Standing up for another’s lived experience is what an ally does. When a queer friend shares their experiences with me, I listen. I don’t dismiss them as paranoid. Whether or not I get Internet points for it doesn’t matter. All the more reason to hear them out, actually, because queer people are not the majority and their perspectives are easy to ignore if what you care about is which side the bigger number is on.
No offense but you aren’t my queer friend. And besides, both things can be true. This expression can strike someone as wrong and it can also be a part of a semantic shift that other people see differently.