• soulifix@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Any of them that’s vague but of course it’s dependent on context.

    The ‘be yourself’ one bothers me the most. There’s parts of myself that I don’t like, why would I want to get cozy with it?

    Oh and especially “do what makes you happy”. I’m sorry but I deal with suicide on a semi-regular basis and what if one day I decide I want to go and I feel that is what will make me happy in that mindframe. Would that be okay? No it wouldn’t.

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      1 year ago

      You can make “willing to change and improve” part of who you are. I think far too many people interpret “be yourself” as “never change, improve, or self-reflect”, when it should really mean something more like “don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t”. Any changes you make should be sincere. Being yourself doesn’t have to mean being stagnant.

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        1 year ago

        Yeah, ‘be yourself’ is really more ‘accept yourself, be true to it, and strive to be better where you falter’

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      1 year ago

      Know the parts of yourself to keep to yourself is pretty valuable advice. I think “Be Yourself” is better described as “Be yourself- except for that, and that, and that, oh and probably keep that shit to yourself bro- that’s fucked up.”