You know what works every time for me against any telemarketer or tele-scammer?

“Excuse me: are you aware that this is a business line?”

Repeat as necessary with appropriate outrage. They always hang up first.

Thanks for the kind words! I’m in a much better space these days. :)

I wish you all the ease and abundance possible for your journey forward. <3

I’m glad my experiences can help!

I’ve no problem sharing gender and body info: I’m cis female.

I definitely went through a bit of a period of questioning when I realised the differences between my pre and post medicated experience. Afaik a lot of newly medicated folk go through a stage of coming to terms with the effects of the medication on their life.

Personally, I felt a lot of grief about ‘what else has changed’ for a little while. Not just in my sexual experiences, but even the need to take medication. There was a lot of internalised able-ism I had to work through as well.

Ultimately, your experience with diagnosis and medication will be your own, but there’s a big community of fellow adhd-ers that can chime in and possibly help support you with whatever you’re experiencing.

There’s always hope. :)

Hey I can speak from experience to try and answer this question.

I’ve been taking lisdexamfetamine (Vyvanse/Elvanse) since 2017. It has absolutely impacted my sex drive. Though, not in the way most might expect?

So achieving orgasm is actually easier for me (overall) when I’m medicated, but the drive to have sex as frequently as before has decreased. However, I don’t really think it’s by way of the medication actively depressing my sex drive, but rather because it’s no longer necessary for me to seek stimulation by way of having sex.

So, now, it’s easier to go without sex without feeling ravenous. More specifically, I considered myself to have a fairly insatiable sex drive before, but since becoming medicated I now seek it out about half as much.

My partner and I still engage in sex two or three times a week, and sometimes it’s more, rarely it’s less. For contrast, in a previous relationship (prior to diagnosis) my need was to initiate sex every single day.

If my partner initiates, it can take a little time for me to get into the groove, but the desire for sex is still functioning just fine. Maybe the best way I can put it is: ‘I could still eat, I just don’t feel like I’m starving anymore.’

I hope that gives you some insight. I’m happy to clarify or answer more if needed.

Have you considered an alternative?

I give them grace. I assess their understanding gently and afford them every opportunity to learn on an accessible level. If they can’t learn from me, then I follow my curiosities and see what I can learn from them.

I remind myself, often, that ‘if I’m in the smartest person in the room, I’m in the wrong room.’