Omg… i wish I knew about this 2 weeks ago…

When she remarried, she kept the name too. Her new husband not so happy about it, but it was clear she ruled that relationship.

When my parents got divorced, my mother didn’t change her last name. She said it was her name most of her adult life and didn’t feel the need to revert to her childhood name.

Isn’t that just paying the debt?

No. But I should. Probably time to start.