I’m out of the loop. Could someone please explain like I’m a 5 year old that knows just enough Linux to be dangerous?
I’m a systems librarian in an academic library. I moved over the Lemmy after Rexxit 2023. I’ve had an account on sdf.org since 2009 (under a different username), and so I chose this instance out of a sense of nostalgia. I do all sorts of fiber arts (knitting, cross stitch, sewing) and love dogs.
I’m out of the loop. Could someone please explain like I’m a 5 year old that knows just enough Linux to be dangerous?
Technically, it’s not been my municipality that’s charged me, but those around me and where I work. I don’t vote there. My town didn’t exist when the people I’m researching were making records. And at the state level, it comes up every few years but dies in committee. Last time was in 2020, when it died due to the pandemic changes everyone’s focus. I’ll ping my local congresscritter and see if it can be revived–the person advocating for change recently retired, sadly.
Accurate. I both misread your comment and I have a bee in my bonnet about a $20 fee to take pictures of something you can examine for free.
Tell that to my town clerk, charging $20 to take pictures of documents with your own phone. This is based on Sec. 1-212 part g (the bottom) of state law And, as a local history researcher, it bites ass.
I’ve uploaded a pdf version of my template to https://jmp.sh/s/IgHX1wC0dubcJVDBm0OU . That link’ll expire it 24 hours. If you know of a better place to upload a pdf, I’m happy to post it there.
Been there, done that. Now I go in with a print out of what I want to convey and let it do the talking. It goes much better for me. If you like I can generic-ify my template and share it, once I’m off mobile.
I finally found a job that I enjoy and isn’t wicked stressful. I’m looking forward to going in on Monday to fix a bug that reared its head over the weekend. It’s lovely.
My previous job had little downtime, lots of deadlines, and paid more. I took mental health days a lot.
Current job pays 2/3 as much and I love it. I don’t call out nearly as often.
My mobile app (Joey) still works for me. I think it’s because I’m a moderator on a subreddit. I occasionally visit Reddit, but not nearly as much as I used to.
My understanding:
(Agreeing and using different words to say the what I think is the same thing)
I’m a Southern transplant living in New England for the last couple decades and I’ve never thought of “y’all” as being indicative of right-wingedness. I use it all the time and it doesn’t feel like anyone thinks anything of it.
Robert Evans wrote a post on it and did multiple podcast episodes.
The TL&DR is that AI-generated children’s books are crap, without a coherent storyline or any literary niceties like “foreshadowing” and “beginning middle and end”. Kids are still learning what stories look like, so if you hand them AI-generated stuff they might know it’s unsatisfying, but they can’t put into words why their books are wrong.
My diagnosed-autistic boyfriend mentioned it to me. I researched it, the label fit. Took the online quizzes, started adapting some of the suggested coping strategies/‘life hacks’ and they helped.
Then I realized that maybe all the comfortable, ‘normal’ engineering nerd college friends I fit in with were less neurotypical than I thought. Other friends that had formal diagnoses told me that I felt autistic to them. We flock, you know. Later, I mentioned it to my therapist and she was like “yeah, you seem autistic to me”.
I grew up with Mrs and Ms pronounced nearly the same, so I get the pronunciation confusion.
I’m wicked sorry, I don’t have a good answer. You could try Mx and see how it feels. I’ve dropped sir/ma’am for folks that I know, or that appear my age or younger. I still use it for older folks I don’t know out in the wild.
I, personally, never take offense at being misgendered in a Southern accent if I’m called “ma’am”. I grew up in the South and to me it just feels like someone’s trying their best to be polite and I take it as intended. Sometimes I also just misparse it as “man”, which feels a bit informal, but whatevs. Miss still feels creepy, but I get that less now that I’ve hit 30.
If you’re working at a drive through where there’s a customer/service worker dynamic, I’d 1. go with ma’am or sir 2. accept it if someone corrects you, and 3. recognize you’re more likely to be yelled at by someone for using a ‘new-fangled honorific’ than for misgendering someone.
Edit: Oh! I have replaced “Thank you sir/ma’am” with “Thank you, kindly” and that seems to work for me.
Not really. There’s plenty of gender-neutral names, some you wouldn’t expect. The names Ashley, Chris, Harper, Morgan, and Stacey are all gender-ambiguous (Showing my white American background with this list). Plus, people can have genders that don’t match their name.
Seconding the honorific “Mx”. From what I’ve seen, it’s decently well-adopted in the non-binary community. I’ve not seen it much used outside of that community–it seems to be used mostly when someone ‘needs’ an honorific but doesn’t fit into the 1950s list. I’ve heard it pronounced “Mix” and “Mux”. I tend to go with “Mix”.
IRL, I’ve used “Hey, you” and “Yo!” when hollering at folks I don’t know (example, “Yo! You dropped something!”)
Sidenote: As a nonbinary person, I prefer not being given an honorific over being given the wrong one.
Minirant not directed at OP: And omg, if you need to go with a feminine honorific and you don’t know whether the person is married, go with Ms, not Mrs. or Miss. The connotations of the wrong one are just creepy.
Not married and called Mrs=“Hey, you’re too old to be unmarried. Please feel judged about your relationship status”
Married and called Miss=“Hey, you’re too young to be married. Please feel like I don’t respect you as an adult.”
In all cases Ms=“I don’t know and/or care about your marital status and I’m trying to be polite”
Mine loves it when I cook because maybe he’ll get chicken. He’s on a limited diet for health reasons, but boiled chicken is allowed and it’s his favorite thing.
My pup is terrified of the kitchen vent because he associates it with burning food and the omg loud fire alarm. He’s the only one I know IRL that’s bothered by it.
Bathroom fans, on the other hand, bother TF out of me. I’ve never lived with one that wasn’t too loud to run. And I don’t have enough spoons to spend a few on replacing my current one with a quieter one, so it just sounds like gravel.
This comment made my Internet today. 🏆
I like you, Cock_Inspecting_Asexual. You have a way with words.