And this is the real cynic in me, but the dad will be enthusiastic about going to Little Timmy’s games, and in the end, that’s probably all Little Timmy wants: some time with dad where dad’s happy to be with him.

This is some very good advice. My eldest son is on the spectrum (also low needs now, but was moderate for a while), and he has found D&D groups to be just stimulating enough. Just as an example.

Tech can be your friend here. You can search for people with similar interests. For example, here in NL there’s an app for people who want to go on a walk (obviously, safety first of course). The point being use tech to help you discover stuff you like then find other people who are into the same thing.

That’s enough internet for today.

I don’t understand how people are upvoting this comment. Granted, this is online land, but OP made himself vulnerable asking this question which takes …emotional maturity. If you think it’s a loaded question of full of judgment then it’s on you to explain why that is so.

And yeah, it’s a bit loaded and a bit judgy, but it’s also brief and inclusive.

Every (good guy) male character in LoTR, especially Aragorn. All great examples of genuine masculinity.

Oh, ok.

This is what my Zoomer son said when I asked him as well.

Why would I do that? The statement is in the not the imperative mood, not the interrogative mood. Am I missing some kind of Lemmy etiquette?

The answers here are making me wonder if I should do the same - what are the downsides? Having to look up every single username and password for example?

I quit once using the Allan book, and everyone I know who read it has, but there is a catch: it will never work a second time.

I quite by accident using much vilified e-cigs. Yeah there is some serious bullshit going on with the super high nic disposables the kids get a hold of, and with disposables in general. But just enforce the damn laws you already have and don’t enshitify or even destroy the thing that probably saved my life 12 years ago!

I don’t think you got down far enough to the place where I explained I did ask them and got a bs answer. Or how I know my Millennials are happy with the job (mostly, there’s always something that could be better). And I did get them a lot more money last year, risking the wrath of every other member of senior management.

Talking down to anyone at my workplace is a huge no no. Our owner/CEO is a seriously old school Cypriot and takes his (mainly British inherited) civility very seriously.

Actually my two most senior people are permanent WFH and I’m quite sure they do this (and I do not care at al).

The ones in our offices, yeah that would not go over well with their colleagues, you are right.

In this case unfortunately it means “objectively not doing the job you are paying them to do.” Like, core job duties.

I did. I fought with my CEO for two months and got everyone in the department except me a massive raise, 15%-20%.

Hey fair enough. But they are, and they tell me all the time because we talk constantly. It was the Zoomers I could not talk to on Skype/whatsapp/signal/slack …whatever platform they wanted. So how did I fail to reach them? That’s what I am wondering as a manger because, yeah a job is just a job, but it doesn’t have to suck, and I as a manager can make it suck much less. It’s within my power, but I cannot do the thing if you don’t ask for the thing despite multiple attempts. There must be something wrong with how I attempt to engage them.

Hard agree.

Yes, multiple times. We talk, all the time; we have to bring in multiple locations.

She brought this attitude over from Banking where she was last, and even though I tried to engage her, she just refused to talk to me. Despite me getting her a 20% raise this year, not that that is the central thing.

Yes but only if you live in Cyprus…

Hey that’s not cool. They took the time to write a long and coherent reply for which I am great-full

That is was “personal” and they didn’t want to talk about it. I spoke with all the other team members and found out it was because of things other people had - like wfh or different hours - that she never asked me about even though she knew directly approved for the others.