Would more men be open to going to therapy if they had resources tailored specifically for them, and if the office had Emotional Support Animals for appointment use?
Would more men be open to going to therapy if they had resources tailored specifically for them, and if the office had Emotional Support Animals for appointment use?
Every single man I know tells his version of the same story: You confide in a woman, you tell her something you’re upset about, something you’re insecure about, you open up…and she uses it as a weapon against you the next time she’s angry. She wasn’t offering her support, she was arming herself.
Women talk a big game about wanting men to be more emotional, more vulnerable, more open. They love pretending this about themselves. A man saying emotion words is their favorite TV show, but it seems like it never airs. I’ve had girls throw weird little tantrums because I was frustratingly okay. If there wasn’t anything wrong with me, she was going to BE the thing wrong with me. Then I’ll have to talk about my feelings with her.
…until he actually does. Then it’s time to throw his clothes out the window while screaming about “emotional labor.” She shouldn’t be expected to handle his emotions for him. How dare he burden her in such a way?
Most men have learned this lesson by the time he’s figured out how to have orgasms on purpose. He knows not to open up to a woman the same way he knows not to headbutt a cactus. All it’s going to do is make his whole week suck more.
My god, this right here.
Never tell a woman what you’re thinking, it never ends well. If there are women that don’t use it as a weapon, I’ve never encountered her or heard a friend that has.
I have a long term relationship for almost 20 years that works fine because I just keep my problems to myself and work them out. And be there for her to tell me about her problems and don’t try to fix anything. Every time I’ve tried, it’s backfired.
I think you’re confusing vulnerability with emotional dumping. Vulnerability is admitting you’re afraid of women and working on that. Emotional dumping is merely expressing all your negative emotions and expecting someone else to do something about it.