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  • souperk@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    10 months ago

    It’s been a moment since I took the monotropism questionnaire, but I scored in the 200s.

    The title makes me think that you discovered the monotropism questionnaire from the relevant video from “I am autistic, now what?”. In case you haven’t watched the video, maybe it’s a good intro.

    Other than that, I am myself trying to answer the same question. For me learning about autism has helped a lot. There have been a lot of moments of “doesn’t everybody do that?” and “oh, that’s why!”.

    If there are problems that lead to you taking the questionnaire, maybe it’s worth seeking guidance from a professional. Though, sometimes it’s hard to get proper help.

    Regardless, if the result is true or not, it’s worth it to take a look at your day to day life, see how monotropism is affecting you and if you can make any changes that would help. For example, at some point I realized one of the reasons I was avoiding hanging the laundry out to dry is that I hate touching wet fabrics, and mentally preparing myself for it made it a lot more bearable (still icky though).





  • I feel you. There would be times when I would prefer ordering a delivery to serving a plate of food I have already cooked.

    Been struggling with eating disorder for the past few years, and the last year I have been trying (without success) to keep a healthy diet. Ordering delivery online is the biggest issue for me.

    Buying groceries that I know I am going to throw has helped a lot. The shame of throwing rotten veggies has motivated me many a time to start cooking whatever is left before it’s rotten, I view it as trigger to cook. Also, not having groceries can be a barrier to cooking.

    I have trouble accounting for all the effort required to prepare a dish. Tasks like washing the dishes, buying groceries, cutting vegetable, etc take time and energy. If I don’t plan for those, I will get tired at some point and completely give up cooking.

    When everything seems too hard, I try to do something small. Usually, this is washing a couple of spoons or glasses. Sometimes this is enough to trigger my fixation and get buttload of work done. Because, this is not consistent my trick is doing often with zero expectations so I don’t get discouraged.

    Now, I am trying to constantly build excitement for cooking. It’s a new experiment, but the idea is that if I have triggers around me that will remind me I want to cook, it make it easier for me to cook. I have installed a mirror on my living room (I don’t like my shape right now, and that feels motivating somehow), and next I will pick some posters to hang around the house.

    Thanks for the question, I hope I am able help even the tiniest bit.



  • First of all, this post got me a bit worried about your mental health, is it possible you are under a lot of stress lately?

    You are expressing something that I have been thinking too lately. Third parties, aka recruiters in this case, cannot be impartial if they are paid by one of the parties involved.

    If you have an issue with your employer, you don’t go to the HR, you get a lawyer. A person fully representing your interest, equipped with the knowledge to actually do that.

    I think the same should be the case for employment seeking. It’s not that you cannot build a network of colleagues, keep up with market trends, navigate legalities, and identify whatever new bullshit benefit companies are offering. But, delegating this job to a person/entity that specialises in it would most of the time be better.

    Last but not least, I don’t think the term recruiter is appropriate, and I believe transitional recruiters are not going to be willing to help you.

    Best wishes on your effort!! Please keep us to date, I am interested to see where this leads!!











  • Been trying to manage without medication for quite sometime.

    When I was able to consistently run daily, it helped, but keeping a habit is really hard for me.

    Also, having a healthy diet helped, while I was able to maintain it.

    Overall, I am not doing a great job so far, I hope you have better luck.