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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • Firstly, if you’re worried about this, speak to whoever is running the sessions. I could speculate as to what works and what doesn’t, but if you are in contact with a trained person who has seen you many times now, they can probably give you better advice than internet strangers.

    I see a counsellor, which I know isn’t the exact same thing, and I’ve definitely broken down and started crying in some sessions. And yes, it feels like shit. And yes, it hurts. I have a habit of retreating and hiding from stressors, and having to face them is rough.

    However, anything you talk about is likely already in your head anyway. Taking about it lets it out in a safe way, because otherwise it just kinda builds up and festers… Which is even worse.

    If you are neurodivergent though, it might be worth looking for a specialist that handles adhd therapy. I know at least for autism, regular cbt doesn’t work. Don’t know if that’s the same for adhd and whatever therapy you’re doing.










  • Personally, I was very resistant to try antidepressents until about a year ago (because I wanted to solve it myself and not be dependent on drugs), but tried them at a low point and they really helped. I’d recommend anyone curious about them to give them ago. If they don’t work then at least you’ll know, and as far as I’m aware, the side effects aren’t permanent*.

    However, I think there needs to be some other support in place, like therapy. It’s not going to magically change your outlook and make you happy or give you the tools to deal with challenges. It just lifts your mood enough to be able to push yourself to make those changes. For me, it made me less stressed and anxious about everything, which means I can try and enjoy things more rather than worrying about things changing.

    I know there are (or at least, I think there are) a lot of places out there which will prescribe just antidepressants and treat them as a magical cure-all. IMO that’s not the best way of doing it. I think taking antidepressants should be normalized, but at the same time, for the love of god, actually try to treat the underlying issues.

    Oh, and don’t force people to take antidepressants without informed consent. I don’t know why I have to clarify this, but I have a friend online who thinks people don’t know what’s best for them and it’s appropriate for them to be forced to take meds. Stop that. People need to find what works for them and be engaged in the treatment process.

    I have sadly noticed a reduction in, uh, “friskiness” since taking the meds. Not sure how much of that is because of the meds, and how much of it is because I psyched myself up so much thinking that I’d never orgasm again. Biggest sex organ is the mind and all that. Still, it’s not as bad as I worried it would be, and there are plenty of people out there living with low libedos naturally anyway.

    I also feel a bit… Fatigued? Tired? Not really sure how to describe it. Don’t know if that’s the meds or just as a result of bad habits I picked up while being in a bad spot.

    * I am not a doctor. This may be false. Don’t use the ramblings of some guy online as medical advice.






  • Ultimately - what do you have to lose?

    Realistically, worst case is that you go to it, don’t really “click” and learn that it’s not for you. I’d recommend just going with an open mind and seeing if it works for you. Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t, but then you’ll know.

    Also - remember that anxiety brain is very good at coming up with excuses for not trying new things. Take everything it says with healthy skeptiscism.

    I’m terms of personal experience, I’ve not been to a support group but I do see a counsellor and honestly it’s nice just to talk about things. Talking is an underrated way of resolving issues, imo.