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Cake day: December 7th, 2023

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  • I am sorry this was your experience, it’s an awesome and tasty spread, I would have loved to have been invited and would have eaten a lot of it haha

    That said, I think some times disappointments like this happen because there’s some mismatch in people’s expectations of an event

    I find that sometimes it also helps to let people know in advance that there will be food so they don’t eat beforehand. Sorry if you already mentioned this in the thread somewhere. I hope you make some more friends, but no need to officially break things off with anyone from this event. Just cool it with them for awhile I guess











  • Just be careful that you’re both designating each other as a beneficiary on any insurance, 401K/other retirement vehicles, or other assets (stocks, bonds, housing, accounts etc). If she’s not legally your spouse, she’s not going to be automatically entitled to any assets if she’s widowed or vice versa.

    You both may also want to have a will or power of attorney clause given to each other in case of medical issues which prevent someone from communicating their own will. Family members get the right to act on behalf of their family, but they can’t do anything to help or protect if they’re not legally related in some way. Some places have clauses for common law spouses, but not all do, and not for all circumstances.






  • nifty@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonePoorly socialized rule
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    26 days ago

    I am listening, I think it’s a case by case basis and generalizations just alienate people instead of making them empathetic or sympathetic.

    I also know that people tend to downplay women’s concerns as part of misogynistic histories, so I am mindful of that too. I do my part to speak up against these kinds of patterns when I see them

    Edit I am just giving my pov, I wish there was a way to know which approach is more helpful.

    Edit 2 but yeah, I tend to generalize too, so I get the need to do it when something annoys you enough