itchick2014 [Ohio]

IT nerd and synthesizer player from Ohio. Reddit refugee, here to stay.

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  • Two things for me… pomodoro method and the mantra “Don’t put it down. Put it away.” Pomodoro got me through college and made hyperfocusing on assignments seem like more of a choice. The mantra? It is part of my inner dialogue all the time lol. I tend to put things where ever and wouldn’t you know it? In a day my home is a mess. So once I heard the suggestion I took it to heart and it does actually really help me remember WHY to put things away. Because the “oh I will grab it and put it away later” is a lie.


  • Therapy? I react badly to all ADHD medications so I am not medicated for it. What has helped me the most is working through things with a therapist who also helped me with implementing coping mechanisms. Things like pomodoro method (this got me through college!), organizers at “drop spots,” and learning how to self talk made a huge difference for me. It is not impossible to do well without meds…it is just harder.


  • The best solution I have seen to this was the guy I worked with, sick of people shaking the doors repeatedly while we were redoing signage after close exclaimed at some door shakers: “what the fuck you doing bro?!” Those of us in the store lost it and the customers walked away embarrassed. From your comment, I can tell you have not had a job that works with the general population directly like retail. You lose patience pretty quickly with others trying to complain to get their way, push boundaries, and sometimes just be assholes. You should try it sometime. It is quite enlightening.











  • Your response to this situation is perfectly normal. Things I would recommend:

    Please at least mention it to your wife and mention that at minimum it is “affecting you emotionally.” It is not fair to her for you to return and be so worked up and not have an explanation.

    Clients are understanding if they have an explanation. I would say something along the lines of “my coworker has a personal issue to attend to.” And a lot of times that is enough.

    Though it is hard to deal with, remember that you are still here and made it past that time before. Though this sort of thought line is always a struggle, it is possible to push through no matter how difficult it may seem. What you said to your coworker is likely sufficient for now. Perhaps a reminder message saying something like “hope you are still doing ok” or “don’t push yourself to come back too hard, take time to work through things” would be appropriate on rare occasion until they return to the project.

    These things are tough for everyone and nobody deals with it the same way. Since you don’t have access to your therapist, perhaps finding an outlet like journaling might help you work through your side of things even if you do so temporarily.

    You will make it through despite it being harder than expected on your side of things. Always remember you can only control yourself and there is only so much you can do. Don’t stress yourself out too much when you have already taken steps to show that you care.