Can’t catch a break

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Cake day: October 12th, 2023

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  • Does it bother you? If you all share meals, will you both be able to be accommodated? If it’s something you do, will going out to eat be a problem? (And to be fair, most places have one or two things like chicken tenders for people that don’t care for the cuisine their restaurant specializes in.)

    Some people might see his diet as limiting. Some might see it as a win, “I will always know what to get him.”

    If he and you are open to it, you might both explore ways to help him branch out, like recreating some of the Lunchables he likes. If he likes those, see if you can mix it up a little.

    Now if this guy is just not open to new things all together (aka it’s not just limited to food… food aversions can’t always be helped), I would be far more cautious. That says a lot more about his personality.

    If the whole mess just seems like too much trouble (no judgement), I just wouldn’t bother. Life is too short to be dating someone that does something fundamental you can’t stand.
















  • Yeah, like sticky spoons! This one task has another task stuck to it and it’s gross and annoying and takes another spoon to deal with. These are the bane of my existence.

    Sweeping or vacuuming the floor is one. I have to clear off the floor before actually sweeping. Sometimes there’s a bag of laundry in the way so I need to either move it or put it away.

    Laundry is another one. I need a place to be able to fold stuff. So the bed or a table needs to be cleaned off. If the bed sheets aren’t clean, got to deal with that. I usually get to the table. Where I first need to clear it off, which usually is covered in my daughter’s and partner’s stuff. Then I need to clean it.

    Same thing with cleaning the kitchen counters. I have to move everything off first. Sometimes that is dirty dishes. What I try to do to mitigate that is to unload the dishwasher and dish drainer every morning. Then as I make new dirty dishes, I load them in the dishwasher or hand wash them. That way there isn’t a big pile. Unfortunately my partner has been taking care of the kitchen and everything is a mess. I can’t get to it because I am dealing with household work only I can do. (She is more disabled than me…) But sometimes I have to clean the kitchen for her because she gets sick or something and it is so much harder because she doesn’t have a system and it is chaos and dirty dishes everywhere. Some pretty old.

    I will say one thing that helps me is I have bins for my partner’s and daughter’s wayward stuff. If they left something out and it’s in my way, I put it in their bin. My partner appreciates it. My daughter takes some convincing to put the stuff away. It makes it so much easier for me to get my tasks done. Before I would either have to address each and every thing to them before I can get my own thing done.

    One thing I decided wasn’t worth my time and extra energy: cast iron, not the ceramic coated kind. No way I’m taking take of that. Uncoated stainless steel for life!