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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Malware implies malicious. It’s not malicious - it’s extremely intrusive.

    Ultimately I don’t give a shit if they have every bit of data on the computer I play games on: there’s nothing there worth looking at. I do my private stuff on my phone. Gaming PC is for discord, games, and making shit for the games.

    So I trust their root kit. They can’t do anything to me there.












  • Hell yeah

    It does seem like the harder part of the negotiation (automation) will happen in January.

    It’s a shame that the labor union is opposed to Automation but in a capitalist system any loss of a job threatens loss of life: there is strong incentive from unions to oppose automation for that reason.

    Automation should be the joy of the worker but without ownership of the means it becomes the worker’s doom.




  • I was definitely in a similar position but at a younger age. So I’m not sure how applicable my experience is to you at 40+

    For me what helped most was 3fold:

    1. Bupropion. I can’t state how much this antidepressant/ADHD combo medicine helped me chill out, function, and relax about social situations.

    2. A major cognitive shift from “I must make friends” to “I’m totally happy alone, friends just make things better”

    3. Learning to always assume the best. People aren’t out to get me, nor do they hate me. They’re generally busy, almost certainly have a small clique of friends they like to spend time with, and I’m not in that group. And that’s totally fine.

    It took from age 23 until 26 for me to get that all straight in my head. I spent almost a year of that pulling back from all social responsibilities and taking time to be alone and heal.

    Reading through your comments here reminds me of myself before that process and I’ll give you the same advice that a dear friend gave me - you need to go talk to a psychiatrist. Your mental state is unhealthy.

    You don’t heal a broken leg by walking on it. You shouldn’t try to heal a broken mind by force of will. Medication is a modern wonder, and I’d seek it out every time in your position.


  • Interact with them just the same as before. they’re still friendly people, they’re just friendly people who didn’t come to an optional social event.

    How many optional social events do you say no to? Personally I will decline dozens of invites to do things every year for various reasons including: nah I don’t feel like it.

    It’s not that I don’t like the people doing the inviting: it’s that I have a limited social battery, limited free time and a lot of things I want to do.

    And in the meantime: become even closer with the 5 who showed.




  • It’s the correct decision that will never happen - Children have no rights+ in modern society.

    Any zealous religious parent being told they can’t bring up their child in their religion would throw an absolute shitfit.

    +The only “right” of a child is framed in terms of parental responsibilities.