This is only if you are a British national. Admitted I only scanned through the OP’s post, but I didn’t see anything other than a comparison with the French system.

It’s exciting for someone. And it’s not the end user.

It’s not a random string. 7.62x54r is a bullet calibre.

Edit; typo

You need to take the time to regulate. If you don’t then it just ends up in a meltdown at best, and a total shutdown at worst.

And I’m sure everyone would rather you just swerved a social event that deal with that. I know for me, at least, I’m utterly done mentally and emotionally for a couple of days after a shutdown.

I will hopefully assume your wife knows that you’re autistic and your needs. Just tell her that you’ve gone none-stop for two weeks and that you’re at critical point for regulation. If you can, might be worth taking sick leave from work.

Autism is where I think that this get difficult, and where I think a lot of the responses might miss.

Gaming is really seems to be a ‘specisl interest’, especially if it’s one game in particular. And taking that away without any replacement isn’t good, since it’s what your brain needs to self regulate. It’s not so much an addiction as nicotine or alcohol can be, but more like food, or hydration. You need a method of regulation.

If you’re worried about the effects of gaming specifically, then the only thing is to find another special interest that grips you in the way that games/that game does. It sounds like you have an idea already on what that might be. All I can say is that you should try and throw yourself into it head first!

I would like to think I would be some kind of PMC trying to survive in a quarantined zone after mass evacuation. The Russian government has cordoned off the area as a result of some kind of conspiracy by a secretive 'Umbrella Corp' style mega corp and has stranded the Russian and Western PMCs that were caught in the area when it closed.

But in reality I would be a Scav and almost immediately killed by some lvl70 Kappa chad.

Exactly. It depends on the severity of the negative outcome.

It’s one thing to be confident in directions, it’s another to be confident in a pre flight check list for a 737. That’s why there’s appropriate guidelines that dictate how to conduct the latter.

I’m currently not sure how I feel about a proper official diagnosis at this stage. With the stigma around mental health illnesses 8 worry it’ll just be used against me. My journey with this is still very young (read: days) so a lot of stuff I’m finding out quite fresh and this particular nugget of info was as soon as this very morning.

There are other routes you can go through such as charities, the main one being ‘Right to Choose’ who support you with how to approach your GP, templates for letters, what to say to the various people you need to speak to and such. They also act as a tool for you to find support groups, specialists etc etc.

Sounds amazing, right? Hell yeah. Except they’re so utterly overflowing they’ve been closed to new referrals/applicants since the end of August.

2 weeks too late. Honestly, man. You can’t make this stuff up.

Depending on your situation, maybe if you got your hair cut more often it won’t be such difference.

People are commenting on the drastic difference, not that you got your hair cut I find.

If you get it cut every couple of months (or even less) then people probably won’t notice except for those that are either close, or NT themselves.

I think that the biggest issue is that in many places (the UK is a personal example), the services are so utterly over stretched and overflowing capacity that there is literal years long waiting lists in some parts of the country.

In York area, unless you become a priority case due to being a risk of self/other harm then they have a waiting list of over 4000 people, with the capacity to only process 160ish per year. I’ll let you figure out that maths by yourself. It’s fucking hopeless. So with an official diagnosis effectively impossible to self ‘diagnose’ is your only option and you have to hope that the people around you are supportive enough to trust you and help regardless.

Not to mention the difficulty in even getting a referral to an assessment for the diagnosis. The steps in place are practically brick walls to us with the requirements needed to fulfill. You need to get an appointment with your GP (good luck since it’s not an emergency), then you need to hope they have some understanding/experience enough to identify if you would be suitable for a referral, then you need to convince them you need a referral, then you have to wait for the specialist to pick you up and be put on the wait list, blah blah blah.

Why go through all that energy when you can just ‘diagnose’ yourself and carry on with struggling the way you always have. After all, as long as you keep your routine it’ll be fine…right?

Except it fucking isn’t, but what other choice is there?

As an adult who has very, very recently come to realise that they’re very likely autistic, this really hit me hard.

I constantly thought about whether I do love or even can. Because most of the time I just felt nothing. I knew I wanted to be with my partner, but I could never understand why because I rarely felt anything. I’d cling to the rare moments where I would feel it and constantly remind myself of that when it got hard.

There had to be a reason why I physically couldn’t leave despite all the times we would have a huge row and she’d knee jerk and tell me (it was obviously not something she meant, but that’s not how people like us think).

My emotions are generally on or off. And normally they’re just off.

But reading this has helped me understand how I show my love and it’s such a wave of relief to know that I do actually love, and care. It was such an intensely overwhelming wave that saw me start sobbing my eyes out. A 32 year old man.

My son and partner, for example l, are the only two people I frequently ‘info dump’ on. When we do that parallel play thing I feel so comfortable and relaxed. I worry sometimes if my partner feels awkward that I’m ignoring her or whatever, but I just don’t.

I realised that my nagging at her to do simple things for herself isnt ‘nagging’ but me expressing my feelings.

And the amount of times I hold back on wanting to penguin pebble when I see something because I think she’ll find it stupid or I can’t afford it is fairly common.

Although all that said, I dunno about the pressure thing. I’ve never really liked it, but I do know that when I’m shutting down or in a meltdown or having sleep paralysis I’m desperate for a hug/squeeze. So I guess it’s probably related.

About 2 weeks ago I saw something that made it twig for myself. It was a random Orion Kelly video about the biggest signs of autism in adults and I found myself stunned that I hit every point but one.

Initially I was like you. Confused on how to feel. ‘Autism’ for me has always been a loaded word and came with particular connotations.

But this last week, especially, has certainly softened those feelings. I’m still not happy with applying the word to myself. It feels awkward and an excuse, and coming from 32 years of being fearsomely independent (probably because I’m on the spectrum) and a strong believer in people being in control and responsible of their own actions it’s still a tough pill.

Overall I think ruminating has been good for me. Keep researching it, reading/listening to other autistic people’s stories and experiences and start making a list of the traits that you identify with. It’s helped me have something that I can share with my partner, and it’s helped me realise things like what my stims are etc.

Not sure I understand, beyond trying to promote your YT?

Using crunch as an example of their progressiveness isn’t really a good data point, Rockstar haven’t released a title since RDR.

Talk is cheap when you know you’re not going to be releasing a new title for ankther decade, but when it comes to the punch, that’s when the proof will be in the pudding.

For the most part I think that they’re all entirely nonsense and based around people searching for something that simply isn’t there.

At the end of the video Lemmino spends some time talking about these, saying that they’re just not credible based on so many factors. And for that I entirely agree. However he doesn’t talk about the weird behaviour of the Secret Service following the event.

Now all of that could be down to Secret Service corruption, incompetence, secrecy etc etc, but it could also just as likely be on purpose.

I’m a big believer in Occam’s Razor, that the simplest thing is probably what happened. As we all know the events, I fully believe that Oswald did what he did entirely as described in the video, but there are is also interesting ‘evidence’ that suggests that maybe one of Kenney’s Secret Service detail may have unintentionally shot Kennedy in the back of the head in the chaos of everything and upon realising this, the Secret Service obviously decided to try and (successfully) cover it up.

Again, I fully recognise this theory as a conspiracy, but for me, based on what (admittedly small amount) I’ve seen on the matter this is the most credible. Because it’s the simplest answer. Only being trumped by the simpler answer that everything happened as described.

The amount of effort and research that Lemmino puts into his videos are epic.

I can honestly believe that the amount of time between videos is entirely the length of time it takes to create one of his videos.

For anyone who hasn’t heard of this youtuber I would strongly recommend his video on Jack the Ripper and the video on the origins of the ‘Superman S’. The latter of which I think is the genesis of his passion for these long form deeply researched videos.

He has come such a long way from his roots as a bit of generic ‘Top 10’ lists creator to where he has come. Phenomenal development of skills and style.

I think my criticisms on this video, if I was to be picky, would be that he perhaps could have touched on some of the more credible ‘conspiracies’ surrounding and following the event. But I appreciate the length of the video was already nearly 2hours just in the details surrounding Oswald at the time. Maybe he’s got another video planned regarding this, after all he has touched on speculation before on the Jack the Ripper video.

What they gonna do? Sue a decentralised network that noone owns by it’s pure design?

I’ve had (have) iPhones supplied by work and I just can’t get away with them. To the point it just sits there on my desk and never get touched unless I need to 2FA or something through it.

And even that takes me an unreasonable amount of time to figure out every time. A lot of that is down to lack of experience, but I’m sure most is down to it just being unintuitive vs an android. And I’m a Pixel user, and before that a HTC user so always been a very pure Android experience.

Yes, because that’s socially forced on us. I don’t want to have multiple different messaging apps (2 of which from the same fucking megacorp) to have to navigate around.

Person A like to message via app A, but person B likes to message via app B, and person C messages via both app A and B so it’s impossible to keep a fucking unbroken line of conversation going etc etc.

Not to mention that means that I HAVE to have these apps on my phone as a result. No matter how strict you set up your privacy controls to restrict their access, there’s inevitably shit that they still scrape from you, even stuff you’ve specifically rejected access to.

And then on top of all that, you’re giving them all of your conversaions with people. They may tell you it’s all encrypted and all that shit, but I don’t entirely believe it.

It drives me up the wall. Let me have one messaging app. Let it be the default app on the phone.

To be fair, as a work machine, I far prefer macs. And there’s a reason why Windows has been implementing steadily more and more MacOS features into their OS over time.

For a personal machine I’d rather Windows.