Welcome to Costco. I love you.

You keep moving the goal posts.

If you can’t see the difference between someone’s random opinion on the internet and someone paying actual money to oppress actual people - I don’t think we have much common ground to have a reasonable discussion.

One is a law that actually affects real people. One is a belief. What is hard to understand?!? These aren’t remotely the same thing.

If someone threatened to murder your family vs someone who paid someone to murder your family — which person is worse?

I had the opposite experience. The ability to watch feeds of interesting people on mastodon over Twitter was completely lost. The instance I joined was so quiet. I kind of just gave up.

Lemmy is like lightweight Reddit and the federation seems to work out of the box unlike mastodon. It’s nice to see posts from various instances without having to do much.

He’s been playing up the idea of “the everything app” and X/x.com for decades. It’s actually what he wanted PayPal to be before they kicked him out. Theil is the one that refocused X.com and rebranded to make PayPal be what PayPal is today.

I’ve had the opposite experience. We pay way beyond the highest end in our industry, gobs of extra bonuses, full benefits, profit sharing, transparent salaries, nearly unlimited vacation, 4 day work weeks, work from home with all their tech provided, and we still struggle to get people to just do the work.

We’ve tried folks that are local and folks that are all over the country and it’s basically the same issues. You get really talented people initially but some folks you still have to drag kicking and screaming just to do the work consistently. It’s not even just the young folks.

I explicitly pay high because I don’t want to micro manage people to just do the work. I don’t want money to be the primary motivator. Sure we have bonuses but everyone gets them if we meet the goals. It’s a team effort.

I don’t take benefits that I don’t also give my team. It feels like we get one decent worker out of every 10 that make it through the 90 day probationary period without a lot of coaching on time management. The work isn’t even difficult - it’s just work that is very consistent and detail oriented. Even when you outline the success up front for them, you can watch it start to slip in the folks that aren’t going to make it after 4-6 weeks. We have touch points every two weeks during the probationary period and even when you try and steer the ship back on track they falter if you don’t stay on top them.

It’s like a lot of people just aren’t adapted or disciplined to work from home where there isn’t militant structure, especially when we have SO much flexibility. They say they want all the freedom and benefits we offer but won’t make whatever changes they need to sustain it.

Like literally have had people break down at their 90 days crying because they SAY they want everything we offer, best job they’ve ever had, blah blah blah — but won’t just allocate the goddamned time to their daily hours and do the work. Some don’t even know why they don’t do it.

We had one guy who said it was like winning the mega millions but it was like the situation where the person doesn’t know how to manage the money and they spend their entire fortune in less than a year and are broke and worse off afterwards.

The folks who are successful at the job most have been with us for many years. A few have even left and come back.

I can see why some companies want people to work in an office, it would probably make the company much more successful and profitable. I personally hate that though. I’d rather not have a company that have to have a 9-5 office. I want to have the freedom and work flexibility to enjoy work life balance — and I want all of this for the team too. Some people just don’t want it enough for themselves I guess even when you hand it to them on a silver platter.

We just keep sifting to find the gems.

It’s maddening.

Does anyone know how to block instances from showing up in your feed? The lemmygrad stuff is one of the instances I’d love to not see.

Captive finance companies do this all the time because they make money on the margin of the product. The financing is just an incentive to get up to purchase the product.

In practice, yes. Absolutely.

With your grandmother, no. Unless your grandmother is a raging asshole and doing it on purpose to sleight you - your grandmother likely loves you very very much. She’s not doing it on purpose.

(If your grandmother is intentionally sleighing you, ignore the following completely. Fk her if she is.)

Your grandmother likely has zero frame of reference to contextualize what she is inadvertently doing. She’s been doing and saying the same idioms for 60, 70, 80 years or more. I COMPLETELY understand the frustration but she’s not repeating them to sleight you.

If you have a good relationship I’m sure if she’s doing something that is especially triggering - she would be more than happy to adjust with gentle reminders after you’ve had a discussion about it and a gentle reminder when ever she falls back into old habits.

We all know kids learn language fast and more easily with immersion. Adults are exponentially worse. Can you imagine what it’s like for an Octogenarian, let alone with zero immersion? You are likely their ONLY point of reference. It’s going to take time to unlearn those habits. It’s like they’ve only spoken English their entire life and suddenly everyone around them speaks fluent Spanish and those around them are frustrated with them that they keep speaking English. They haven’t changed or moved - everyone else is changing around them, and although for the better your grandparents are understandably confused at the resentment.

Regardless - If she actually knows certain phrases bother you she will change. It will take practice on her part. But give her some latitude.

If she refuses to change, family is who you choose to surround yourself with, not who’s genetics you share. If you’re young and compelled to acquiesce to the whim of your parents in the meantime to tolerate your grandparents, know you’ll be able to choose for yourself who your family are sooner than to think.

But what I wouldn’t give for even one more day with my grandmother who loved, accepted, and supported me like no other even when she didn’t completely understand. Even when she got it wrong she tried so, so hard to get it right. She’d even correct other people and shoot me a grin afterward - so proud of me and proud of herself for advocating for me and being a better person.

Get mad at others especially ones that don’t care about you - but be patient and love your grandmother unconditionally like she loves you.

And hug her big for my sake. Maybe twice.

Almost the entire vehicle interface is software and screens. If he’s doing it at Twitter he could just as easily start doing weird paywall stuff with Tesla.