I had the opposite experience. The ability to watch feeds of interesting people on mastodon over Twitter was completely lost. The instance I joined was so quiet. I kind of just gave up.
Lemmy is like lightweight Reddit and the federation seems to work out of the box unlike mastodon. It’s nice to see posts from various instances without having to do much.
Does anyone know how to block instances from showing up in your feed? The lemmygrad stuff is one of the instances I’d love to not see.
Captive finance companies do this all the time because they make money on the margin of the product. The financing is just an incentive to get up to purchase the product.
In practice, yes. Absolutely.
With your grandmother, no. Unless your grandmother is a raging asshole and doing it on purpose to sleight you - your grandmother likely loves you very very much. She’s not doing it on purpose.
(If your grandmother is intentionally sleighing you, ignore the following completely. Fk her if she is.)
Your grandmother likely has zero frame of reference to contextualize what she is inadvertently doing. She’s been doing and saying the same idioms for 60, 70, 80 years or more. I COMPLETELY understand the frustration but she’s not repeating them to sleight you.
If you have a good relationship I’m sure if she’s doing something that is especially triggering - she would be more than happy to adjust with gentle reminders after you’ve had a discussion about it and a gentle reminder when ever she falls back into old habits.
We all know kids learn language fast and more easily with immersion. Adults are exponentially worse. Can you imagine what it’s like for an Octogenarian, let alone with zero immersion? You are likely their ONLY point of reference. It’s going to take time to unlearn those habits. It’s like they’ve only spoken English their entire life and suddenly everyone around them speaks fluent Spanish and those around them are frustrated with them that they keep speaking English. They haven’t changed or moved - everyone else is changing around them, and although for the better your grandparents are understandably confused at the resentment.
Regardless - If she actually knows certain phrases bother you she will change. It will take practice on her part. But give her some latitude.
If she refuses to change, family is who you choose to surround yourself with, not who’s genetics you share. If you’re young and compelled to acquiesce to the whim of your parents in the meantime to tolerate your grandparents, know you’ll be able to choose for yourself who your family are sooner than to think.
But what I wouldn’t give for even one more day with my grandmother who loved, accepted, and supported me like no other even when she didn’t completely understand. Even when she got it wrong she tried so, so hard to get it right. She’d even correct other people and shoot me a grin afterward - so proud of me and proud of herself for advocating for me and being a better person.
Get mad at others especially ones that don’t care about you - but be patient and love your grandmother unconditionally like she loves you.
And hug her big for my sake. Maybe twice.
Welcome to Costco. I love you.