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  • There is a bigger barrier to them being able to take it away from you. But they absolutely can. Broadcast content like a movie or TV show illegally, and see what happens.

    This is about the medium by which the license is provided, there is no doubt whatsoever that the license is the same. This has been proven repeatedly. The difference here is that the distributor can be legally forced to remove the content by the owner of the media. So, if for instance you order a physical disc and pay for it ahead of time and then the place you order from loses the right to distribute that disc, you absolutely won’t get it in the mail because they’re required to send it back to the owner.

    You’d likely get a refund in that case but that’s because you didn’t get to actually enjoy that media at all. But buying a license to a show on Amazon or something is different only because it’s likely that they have pull the show after you paid for it and outside the return window. Meaning in theory you have enjoyed or consumed the media you paid for. So the license is legal.

    What really needs to change imo isn’t the transparency. This discussion keeps being had repeatedly and people keep being outraged by it as if they have never heard that this can happen. Its been 20 some odd years of this and I would think it would be common knowledge by now.

    What really needs to change is the terms by which the owner who licenses the content in the first place should either be required to provide a refund or equivalent on a different platform, or they should be the ones held liable for their terminology in the licensing agreement that would require that license to be null and void for people who have already purchased it.

    But literally every single time I say this people get upset about it and nobody can explain why.










  • atrielienz@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldHate Myself So Much
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    15 days ago

    I think part of the problem is you may tend to hold onto anger and other emotions for too long without an outlet. Then they surprise you when they break loose. The episode you seem to have had and the emotions that you feel including the hatred and self condemnation are possibly things that you’ve been hanging onto that you shouldn’t. The other commenter mentioned using a local/offline chat bot to talk to ans that may be beneficial just because it’s a way to express your emotions and let them out in a more healthy way. I use journals for this purpose and always have. It helps me to write things out. This way things don’t get ahead of me as often (though it still happens). You’re not a bad person just because you had a meltdown. Self forgiveness is important and I hope you can work towards that.


  • atrielienz@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldPlease Grieve Your Diagnosis
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    14 days ago

    I was first diagnosed as a kid (But with ADD), and then again as an adult with ADHD (how I found out that they are now considered the same thing).

    For me, it’s never been a case of am I or aren’t I neurodivergent, and I’ve never been medicated. I’m not sure I need medication, or that medication would help. Part of that is because the coping mechanisms I’ve developed (while not full proof) allow me to function for the most part without crashing into the rails too hard. The main problem is that when I do crash it’s not depression I experience but exhaustion.

    It takes me a long time to recharge, and I’m not sure how meds could help with that. No doctor has ever convinced me that I need them.


  • I suppose I cope by having almost 40 years of coping mechanisms that I use to keep me mostly okay. I let my mind fugue in the morning when I wake up. I have a routine that I try to stick to. I have a job that allows me to hyper focus on problems and get the dopamine hit from solving those problems. I don’t have to interact with others for the most part to do my job. I spend a lot of time at home, use ear plugs, or headphones etc. if I can’t make my mind focus I try to do something else. I take breaks. I set alarms for just about everything. And reminders. So many reminders. I also have a very supportive partner. I’m sure there’s other stuff I had to learn to do to mask that I’m forgetting. But for the most part things just work because I put a lot of work into making them work and even then I am not always successful.



  • I was diagnosed with ADD as a child. No extra help was given to me (Possibly because all of my parents effort was given to my brother because he has Autism). The extent that my condition was considered boiled down to “try harder”, because that’s what I was told. I can appreciate as an adult that I have ADHD (which is what people with ADD are now being diagnosed as), and I can even appreciate that some of the techniques that I might gain from an adult diagnosis might be beneficial if I can afford them.

    But here’s the thing. I function, mostly on the backs of a bunch of coping mechanisms that I have developed over the course of almost 40 years because I didn’t have a choice. I have the support of a spouse who goes out of his way to help me if he thinks I need it. Getting re-diagnosed feels exhausting, and honestly (probably because I don’t feel like it would necessarily be beneficial to me in the short term), I don’t want to go through that process again. It seems like a lot of effort for a maybe type payoff that I’m not even sure I can afford (yes, I have healthcare).