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  • loud, obnoxious entitled complainers

    loud, obnoxious entitled complainers

    You Had it right there. Just use that.
    yes: it’s wordy. But it is on topic. And it will never fall out of meaning or relevance. Because it’s practically a dictionary description.

    This is what communication is. It relays your actual meaning with clarity.

    loud, obnoxious entitled complainers can’t wriggle of it with side arguments and assumptions about your narrative of the situation . They don’t take offence to it for the reason you think they are taking offence to it. They are taking offence to the blatant sexism you think you just got away with. And you’re making them look right when they point it out. So using ‘Karen’ as an insult is doing more damage to you than anyone you think you’re describing. Same could also be said about ‘cunt’ too. It just sounds like you’re trying to be an edgy 12 yr old gamer who just discovered the ‘n’ word and have become obsessed about it for no other reason than to push buttons. You can come up with all the Aussie backstory you want about it but then it turns into a story about you struggling to not look bad. It’s no longer about the loud, obnoxious entitled complainers. If anything, shorthand is false economy when you have to spend 40 more words to explain yourself on what you could have done with just 4.











  • Please calm yourself down

    I’d drop this. This reaches into therapizing, tone policing, telling a person their job on their selves and their feelings, making demands that is exclusively tailoring the interaction for your own comfort and convenience. Maybe it makes sense to you at the time but it is self serving and that person might have a lot of struggles you are not considering to get there and this can come off as ‘just pull yourself up by your bootstraps’. Their journey might be different than your’s on what it takes to manage their emotions. They might not even know how to. This tends to be the gas on the fire in fights for that reason as it is dismissive of their entire experience. Keep it to what you will accept (which you are perfectly in your right to maintain) and maybe your perspective on why it’s so hard to interact with them eg:’I find it very hard to know what I should expect about your behaviour/emotional state/I’m feeling overwhelmed when you do so I need to be away from you for a while’.

    TLDR: own your feelings about the situation but stay out of their business of how they should manage their feelings.


  • I’m not a fan of avoidance technique off the bat as that just exacerbates disassociative disorders even worse. life isn’t a clean ‘no confrontation’ experience. That said, we don’t owe abusive people an audience.

    If a person is doing something wrong and someone else is overreacting or maybe they are perfectly in their right to be yelling (if you killed their pet or something) then yeah, you can expect some fallout from this! You’re not a victim in a circumstance of ‘being yelled at’ when the bigger picture is you did something that really hurt a person to that degree that they are broken and cannot respond ‘appropriately’.

    In circumstances where it’s just someone is being overreactive,yeah, Usually just stating “stop yelling” should be enough. If they keep at it, then definitely leave. That person is not owed an audience or a person to abuse.