Pitri

Relationships? Which relationships?

I’m honestly half joking. The one relationship I ever entered as a teenager was because I was drowning in hetero- and amatonormativity and didn’t know any better. I never hugged her, I never kissed her, and I especially never did any naughty things with her. It was an attempt from my mother to encourage me to feel love as an otherwise friend-less neurodivergent child. you know, the kind of “why don’t you write a love letter to her, if you enjoy being around her?” encouragement. It was only platonic, but I didn’t know better. I’m sure my mother meant well, but in hindsight it is disgusting how much it actually was amatonormative coercion.

Other than that, as an aroace, I never entered a romantic or sexual relationship.

I did find some amazing online friends for life, though. We’ve been meeting for a full week once a year, for the last decade, and always have a blast. Funnily enough, at least 4 people in the friend group turned out to be queer… :D

And friendships is where I excel at, I’d say. I’d consider myself a very loyal friend.

What does hurt a bit is the obvious priority shift when people start putting their long term relationship to the next level, which usually massively decreases the time and effort they put into their friend groups. The fact that they suddenly have something better to do than do stuff with friends, or only rarely show up, because their significant other(s) are more important does feel more and more isolating over time.

If you’re respectful to others, you’re good.

Generally, I’m really careful about forming an opinion about people without knowing more about them. Each person deserves to be judged by their individual character and actions, not by the group they belong to.

who doesn’t want to be 100% a man or 100% a woman.

I’d go further and avoid any kind of “want to be” wording in explanations to people who can be really doubtful. Gender is who you are, not who you want to be. If you tell them “I want to be <other gender>”, they might form some kind of “attack helicopter” opinion/joke. but if you tell them “I’m <gender> on the inside” or “despite my body, I’m actually <gender>”, that leaves a lot less room for wrong interpretations.

“Someone who’s gender identity neither aligns completely with man or woman” would be my rewording, in this case.

reminds me of my test runs with elvanse (no idea how exactly that is related to vyvanse, other than the name and symptom similarity).

it was suggested that I might have more success with it than with ritalin. so far I’ve taken 3 of these pills. one day on the first, two days on my second attempt.

on both attempts, I’ve lost my appetite completely. not only that, I’ve noticed a mild disgust against anything edible. I’m already an incredible picky eater per default, my reaction against food that doesn’t taste good is already really strong, which basically leaves me with only a handfull of meals I can eat without strong discomfort. but on that medication, I just could not get myself (nor felt any need) to eat anything. it was actually rather scary.