Yeah sounds like your current “friends” just don’t get how mentally exhausting some things can be for you.
I have some coworkers that commiserate and talk about technical work junk and usually that is enough to get it out of my system & with actual friends we usually don’t talk about work and just shoot the shit and relax and enjoy NOT being at work together.
Good luck getting your stuff figured out my friend!
My SO struggles with this too. I just get by with only one or two people I’d call friends and that works for me. I don’t need a lot.
But my SO struggles with friends in much the same way. They are always the one to reach out to the friends and ask to schedule things and plan in advance but it’s never the friends reaching out to do the same. I consider those not real friends - they’re friends out of convenience because it gives them something to do sometimes instead of actually caring.
So maybe keep track of things like this and see if your friends are actually friends and they care about you or because they get bored and occasionally want things to do.
It seems to me to be pretty normal as you age to distance yourself from others. Especially if you’re in a relationship and/or have a career or job you’re passionate about which it appears you care a lot for your field. Those two things alone will eat up the majority of your time. Throw in friends with that who also may have relationships and jobs etc that eat up all their time too. So naturally it’s difficult to plan things and people fall apart. Totally normal.
My job is in photography but it’s also one of my hobbies & sometimes it does make me feel like I’m at work too.
Damn that anxiety of the after hours work messages when I’m stoned and can’t figure out how to reply!
I too like to get my feet wet with different hobbies and bounce around between some ‘test’ hobbies to see if they’ll keep my interest for long.
Thanks friend! :)
Dude I like running too but I can’t for the life of me run on a treadmill or circular track or anything repetitive like that. It has to be some kind of trail. But the summers here suuuuuuuuuuucccckkkkkk it’s so fucking hot I can’t imagine running at all!
I feel like a loser compared to some of these other commenters lol. I sometimes like to play retro games on my handheld emulator. Those usually get boring pretty fast. I like to watch YouTube videos about really old computers & try to figure out how they work. Like vacuum tubes and stuff - really simple computers. I also watch videos on repairing old electronics and computers too. But I can’t really justify any investment into that hobby so I just live vicariously through the videos. That’s about it.
And any chance I get I like to disconnect from society completely and go backpacking in the woods either by myself or with a couple really close friends! But that could never happen often enough.
Awesome! This is a hobby that I would really like to explore. I watch a ton of YouTube videos on the subject.
Does anyone know a community for really old computers? Like UsagiElectric or Adrian’s Digital Basement type stuff?
I think the person you were talking to had not really given as much thought into the subject.
What a great read. Thanks for linking that article - I had no idea about most of that stuff.
This sounds exactly like how they would think! Especially the reach critical mass and defederate from everyone else.
I hope it goes the same way as the time they “tested” playing like 10 super short ads before the video. That and this are both plain awful sigh
Didn’t you read? They’re blocking the adblockers lol
Eh, if the issues mean a more focused audience remains part of the platform I’m down for that. I’d rather a smaller group of more dedicated people than an absolutely massive group of people where only the loudest voices are heard.
Not sure if this is meant to be negative or positive but I for one like all the growing pains and issues. It makes the whole experience a little more engaging for me. I really like reading up on what problems are happening and how the teams are working towards solutions. I especially like the technical details that are just a little over my head because it’s fun to learn about!
In one of the posts a couple days ago the developer of wefef stated that the app is getting rate limited by lemmy.world servers because so many people are using it. I think they were trying to resolve it but I am still getting the same issue occasionally. It’s just growing pains of the whole ecosystem & totally expected and normal. I’m happy to be an early adopter of all this stuff and watching it grow and mature will be an exciting adventure!
For real! I hope the devs and everyone else involved know that growing pains are fine and totally acceptable. I know I’m not upset in the slightest - if anything it’s more fun because some stuff might be broken or there’s more posts to read about how the update didn’t work entirely or broke something else. It’s kinda fascinating to me as someone who knows very little when it comes to servers and hosting and whatnot.
It’s not defederated it’s federated and decentralized
I really like his videos but those past ones about the pinball machines would put me to sleep so fast! I’m glad he’s doing another photography topic!