If you see me somewhere please let me know. I’ve no idea where I went.
Oh wow you struck gold with that therapist! We need WAY more of him, but you’re right it’s draining work. Like just hanging out with a good friend will wipe me out, but digging deep into the root of someone’s pain, over and over, every day…ooof.
I’m sorry your friend cancelled. Hopefully he gets over this bump and you can reschedule.
I am so happy to hear you have a friend who is willing and able to help you out! My partner and I have good days and bad days. She’s usually more motivated, but I tend to be handier (when I can focus). I lucked out there I think.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could get some mental health professionals who actually trust that someone is accurately describing what they’re dealing with and how? Like - you can throw neurotypical-friendly solutions at me all day but there just might be a reason they won’t work the same as they have for someone else.
Take care of you! Here’s hoping for an uptick in The Good Days soon!
Oh that’s just awful. So any time you need to do Big Project, each smaller step is in itself Big Project and subdividing is off the table.
It also sounds like you’re tackling everything without help. If you can stand it, would organising a group task force help? My partner (not me - I can’t do people very well) got together with some of her more reliable friends and they will plan every other weekend to all descend upon one of their homes and spend about 4 hours doing What Needs To Be Done. It turns the activity into more of a social gathering, and they actually get things done.
Not sure if that would help with some of what you’re dealing with. Also, I’m definitely not a professional so I can’t really help, just try to throw suggestions into the ether in the hope that they might improve someone’s situation a little.
🫂 Not a mess, you just operate differently to how you’d rather. Brains are wildly variable and affected by the strangest stuff. A trick that might work under certain conditions might not with others. Juggling moods, free time, seasonality & weather, finance (“can I afford to do this project right now”) and all that other garbage is a whole task in itself.
That’s when it might help to fall back on compartmentalising the task as others suggested: what is the next single step to refinishing the closets? Sanding the walls? Okay today I will sand one wall and then stop. Done. Feel like tackling a second wall after? Let yourself do that. If not, you are one step closer. Not up to even that single wall? Do future-you a favour and get your equipment staged to do that wall.
Small progress is still progress.
This can be dangerous, but sometimes I will force myself to stop short of reaching a good stopping point. Like, say you have to put up panelling, and 5 sections will cover a wall. Put up 4 panels and stop for the day. That 5th panel not being in place will drive you mad until you dive back into the project.
This will sometimes backfire, and I do have years-old half-finished projects that I’ve wandered away from
It has been surprisingly un-stressful so far, probably due to the ridiculously supportive community there. The best part is that everyone’s submissions go live at the same time every week, so there’s a whole new playlist of brand new music to enjoy!
First of all, excellent username.
Second, I would love a chance to win the Tomb Raider I - III remaster just for the nostalgia.
Third, the cool new thing I’ve done this year is take part in WeeklyBeats, a year-long challenge to create and post a new music track every week of 2024. So far so good!
Fourth, I don’t have a decent meme to share but here (if I can get photos to work) is a photo of my void.
Respond to nothing. Block everything.
Rockbox is a bad benchmark due to its insane versatility. Just because modern players “should” support something doesn’t mean the manufacturer put the work in to do so, or even do it well.
That said, when I buy a portable music player the decision is always based on whether or not there’s a Rockbox port for it.
This for me. I have the moves choreographed and timed, and every shower is a step by step play of the sequence. I just repeat the ritual. I’m not the quickest (it takes about 8 minutes from entering to exiting the bathroom) because I’m paranoid about not cleaning thoroughly.
So happy to see him here.
Okay wait seriously? 7+ years of PB&J for lunch and y’all are telling me that’s not normal?
My Shorts list is a lot of random Spanish-language stuff. I don’t speak Spanish.
I haven’t seen anybody mention failing systems. These consoles are all old enough that some TLC may be required soon to replace failing capacitors, etc. If you’re good with that and the (light) headaches involved in connecting old consoles to new TVs, there are solid recommendations in this discussion.
If you’re okay with emulation, the Anbernic RG351MP (or the newer 353) will play games from Atari 2600 through PlayStation 1, including arcade machines and old DOS games. The Anbernic hardware is very nice and exceptionally portable.
Steam Deck and Nintendo New 3DS are also phenomenal emulators for old games, but require some setup.
I’m sure there’s more I’ve forgotten but there is a cat on me so I am unable to move until he leaves. Sorry, I dont make the rules.
Ah the Koss PortaPros! Excellent choice.
Big agree with Bigoldmustard. In your situation, downsizing and focusing can go a long way. Force your big human brain into lizard mode and keep reminding yourself some things are outside of your control and current ability. Your primary goal is to keep going long enough to pounce on something better.
Also, if you’re in the US look into the Modest Needs charity and see if you qualify for some relief - getting your car reliable again will open more opportunities for employment, even if it’s not within your career. Take a job that gets you some steady work and always keep looking for a job in your field.
Life has stretches of suck, but nothing lasts forever.
“When was the last time your car spontaneously combusted? Please rate the level of inconvenience.”
Treez nuts