My father left this city 7 years ago, because he was having constant panic attacks after some thugs tried to rob us a few times. He went to live in a small, almost dead town, where sometimes he needs to hunt and fish to have something to eat.
So I agree, this anxiety is just my body telling me I should get the fuck out of here too. But I don’t want to throw my whole life away, so I’ll keep going, one day at a time.
Yeah, I need to hit the gym more. This week I managed to go only 2 times. But I agree that it helps a lot, it’s just hard to have enough energy left to go after a full day of work.
AHDH caused me a lot of trouble in the past. I blamed myself too much. Now I deal with it a lot better, knowing that it isn’t my fault, that I’m not just lazy.
Now I think my anxiety is being caused mainly from the lack of financial stability. For example, we just had a damn hurricane here in my city and the roof of my house almost went flying. I would have to sell my car to repair it. Maybe I will have to, because the climate is surely not getting better. Thoughts like this keep buzzing in my head all the time.
It sucks, there’s far too many things that are out of my control. I just need to improve my ability of dealing with them. Smoking weed helps me to forget about problems for a while, but I still need to deal with them somehow.
Great answer. I’m not overwhelmed by the replies, so feel free to write to your heart’s content hahah. It helps me and maybe it’ll help others too.
I look forward to your meditation videos, it’s a very interesting approach.
I have a lot of trouble with capitalism as well. Sometimes I feel that I’ve lost my sense of self. It’s like I’ve turned into a part of a big machine, that is going to a place where I don’t want to be.
The things you said to increase, like walking, nature appreciation, creativity (I’m a musician) help me to regain my sense of self and to find meaning in what I’m doing. Unfortunately, living in a third world country, with a lot of work for little pay, makes it hard to have energy left to pursue those things. But I’ll keep on trying.
Thanks for your reply and wish you the best.
Nice, I’ll try the 5-4-3-2-1 next time I panic. Thanks a lot!
Thanks, I will read it for sure :)
I agree 100% on capitalism being the root of the problem. Unfortunately, we live in this shitty system, so we need to adapt as best as we can. I never tried meditation, can you give me a tip on how to start? Do you use an app for it?
Good point. The ADHD meds were indeed cheaper than the rest, maybe I’ll give it another go. Thanks a lot.
Kid was completely broken, he needed care for his mental health, not jail. I understand it’s not always available though.
Hey, we are feeling better now, thanks for asking :)
We’ll try different messaging apps if I can’t get better with some more time, that’s a good idea. Thanks again and I wish you the best too!
That’s great! Thanks a lot for sharing this. I’m having a rough day and reading your reply made me smile. I’m happy my post could help you =)
Thanks for sharing, I hope my fear will also disappear with time.
Thanks, I will wait some more time to see if it gets better. It’s only been some months since we got back on our feet. If time doesn’t help, I’ll try getting us both on therapy again.
Don’t be sorry, your reply actually helped. It’s good to know we’re not alone dealing with this kind of problem. And you should not feel embarassed, because the “get over it” mentality is toxic as fuck. Having PTSD is not your fault in any way.
Thanks for the advice. I think the support tip is actually already helping. I’ll try to change the notifications to see if it hels as well.
Thanks, I found some interesting stuff already. It’s good to see that I’m not alone dealing with this issue.
Yeah, I think you are right, it may be PTSD. I didn’t think it was PTSD at first because I thought that my experiences weren’t as traumatizing as those war-related PTSD stories that we see a lot online. But now, looking back after some time, I realize how bad things actually were and no one would come out of it unscarred.
Unfortunately I just can’t add any medical expenses now, because money is one of our biggest anxiety causes and this month we are happy because we managed to save up a little. But knowing it may be PTSD can help me look for new ways to deal with it. Thanks a lot for the help.
Happened to me so many times as well. I hope things get better for us.
I work with online sales and that’s not what happens at all. Fake discounts just works, sadly, and people just won’t learn. I don’t really know why, maybe they use the “discount” as an excuse to themselves just to buy more stuff.
The moment I start seeing Meta content here is the moment I leave. People are being very, VERY naive in thinking that the Fediverse is immune to corporate interest. Judging by the Mastodon response, we are already seeing that it’s not.
I’m having a similar issue.
I lost my mother when I was 13. But, at that age, I was too young to understand the fragility of life.
Now, at 30, death scares me a lot. I had to deal with loss a few more times and it finally got to me. Now I am old enough to be able to understand what a “lifetime” is. When we are young, we don’t have this knowledge: life looks like it will go on forever. But it won’t.
I’m just starting to accept that my loved ones won’t be here forever. And this shit is scary as fuck. But we need to learn to accept this truth and live with it. It can also help us to value life more, to be grateful for things we used to take for granted.
And we need to take care of ourselves, physically and mentally, so we can live, as we too are dear for our loved ones and they need our help.
I’m also dealing with anxiety, depression and panic attacks. Here’s what helps me when I panic:
We have to be strong, but it’s also okay to be weak. It’s okay to cry if we need to. Just don’t give up, because there’s always good things in life to make all the suffering be worth it.