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  • I think you might be the one projecting. I meant no tone that you are inferring. I think both men and women collectively need to communicate more effectively, and everyone needs to stop speaking broadly about large demographics being represented by loud flashy minorities.

    I don’t even grant the premise that either sex is as the other is claiming to be, only a small fraction are and that’s all that’s being interacted with.

    No men or women in my entire life fits any of these narratives, but the narratives are all you hear about. They pervade social media just like bad news does in our 24/7 doom scroll world. The majority of people are just decent. But we pretend that every woman is a 304 and every guy is a rapist.




  • Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not part of those groups. But I do see them growing and the issue is that those groups are the only ones courting those people.

    Nothing wrong with 35. But people are most definitely influenced by relationships they’ve had. Running those numbers up doesn’t seem to be beneficial for anyone in terms of long term happiness.

    And what do you mean projecting? I’ve seen clips of women on TV saying that. That’s not me saying it.


  • GaMEChld@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonePoorly socialized rule
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    18 days ago

    Mainly referring to the growing disconnect between men becoming more socially conservative while women are becoming more socially liberal. There’s a growing demographic of men, at least in the USA, that are being welcomed into movements like MGTOW and Passport Bros, while women on the left are going on TV and social media talking about how they would rather run into a bear than a man, men are useless and have no place in society. Meanwhile what’s in it for men? Get married, get divorced, wife takes everything, takes the kids, takes the house, even if they are the ones initiating divorce most often.

    Men are being raised to not be desirable? Which men? The upper 10% of men that 90% of women think they have a shot at marrying because they sleep with that 10% that has a rolladex of girls. Meanwhile those women often have 10 guys in the friend zone ready to go when they hit the wall at 30-40 and finally want to settle down with all their relationship trauma.












  • There are a lot of negatives to be sure, but some positives too. It’s a double edged sword. Hyper focus can cause the absorption of lots of information, and the changes in attention can take someone to myriad topics. That can help create connections between areas of knowledge that might not usually mix, aiding in creative problem solving.

    I don’t lament my ADHD, I just wish I knew about it earlier, so I could have adapted better.



  • GaMEChld@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldADHD... win?
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    8 months ago

    This. As someone with severe combined type ADHD, it is vitally important to develop coping strategies. Timers, alarms, calendar entries, etc. Anything and everything that works. I also recommend passing your decision making process through a mental prioritization framework so you target the lowest hanging fruit (choose biggest impact tasks that require the least amount of effort to complete).