Lol! My mum still asks both me and my husband (“techy” jobs according to her) to solve all her problems with computers/printers/ the internet at large/ any app that doesn’t work… the list is endless. I take it as a statement of how proud she is of me that she would still ask us first, even if we haven’t succeeded in fixing a single issue since the time the problem was an old cartridge in the printer some 5-6 years ago.

Thanks, that’s a great read!

One day, I understood that my then-boyfriend was the real thing.

Before him, I had a couple of good relationships. I was happy, but always wondered if I would have been better off on my own. The thought would pop up every couple of days, I would seriously consider it for a bit, then decide I was happier with them than in my own. Then my now husband showed up and we started dating.

One day, some three-four months into this new relationship, I realized I never had that old thought. It just never crossed my mind for months that I should evaluate the relationship. We clicked on so many levels, he made me a better person because it made me want to be better.

We got married “fast” for some external reasons and I never doubted that was the right choice. Since then, i don’t have to think about it: I know my life is so much better with him in it.

Virtual support!

Life is hard, take care of yourself!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KxGRhd_iWuE

Peanut butter. Somehow, I like peanuts well enough, but I can’t stand peanut butter. It’s literally the only food I avoid, and the only food I had a rough reaction to while pregnant. I’d like to at least not hate it, but I have such a gut reaction to eating it, I don’t see a future I would ever get over it.

Dear Kyrgizion, first a virtual hug (or whatever you are comfortable with) from an internet stranger.

I will share my thoughts freely, take what you need and throw away the rest, these are the results of my own meditations.

We are all humans, and humans are imperfect. I don’t think there is anyone that is a shining example in all areas, but some people are better than others in some areas, and you can use them as limited models.

Let’s think of Steve Jobs for example: he was a visionary, he was passionate about his job and was a great communicator. Those are all things we can admire of him. He was also short-tempered, had a god complex, and believed in dubious “medicines” that ended up killing him. This are also things we should recognize of him. Then, don’t throw the whole model away, just recognize that it’s a limited model.

In the same way, you can look at people in your own life and notice the pieces of them you like. Then you can strive to be like them, limited to those parts.

You could look at your neighbor that’s always smiling, and you could strive to be more positive. That doesn’t mean that that person is perfect in every other way. This also can help in realizing that the bad of people around you is just one of their facets. They are humans, they also have hood in them.

Thanks for this comment! You put into words thoughts that were still partially unfinished in my mind, while adding so much to them. This was a great read.