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  • There’s nothing wrong with it in the moral sense, but I’m not sure it was a good idea. This guy was ultimately successful. However, he had to spend years living very modestly, working very hard, and borrowing money. That whole time, he was under a huge amount of stress because the whole endeavor could easily have ended in failure, leaving him with nothing.

    That’s not something most people would want to do even if they were capable of it, and I actually wonder if he would have been better off if he had gotten a normal job instead. He wouldn’t have as much money as he does, but he would still be quite comfortable, he wouldn’t have gone through panic-attack levels of stress, and maybe he would have married and had a child (which made him very, very happy) a lot earlier than he actually did.



  • I talked to a guy who was trying to found a start-up and I asked him why he was doing it. He said “Because I’m unemployable.” Another person I know is working on it because she eventually wants to be in a position where no one can tell her what to do. Not being OK with working for other people seems like it might be a common trait.

    I do know one guy who went through with it simply because he thought that the thing that he invented was so cool that he couldn’t stop working on it. I suppose that’s also not something a normal person would do, but it’s more positive.












  • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.workstoADHD@lemmy.worldBody Doubling
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    20 days ago

    When I’m around other people, I tend to do what they expect me to do. I suspect that this is mostly due to the shame associated with failing to meet expectations when the person with the expectations is right there right now (as opposed to being in the future). I think I would have gone completely off the rails years ago if I didn’t have family members willing to come stay with me (or let me stay with them) during bad times (bad here being periods of depression which would make it almost impossible to do anything alone).

    People who aren’t my family are actually more effective. I suppose that’s because I know my family will love me anyway even if I keep disappointing them. I had a boss at one job who worked with me very closely every day and I was an excellent employee there because of that. It was the happiest period of my adult life, but then the company went out of business. I’m still friends with that boss.

    One time, I hired a woman to come do household chores with me once a week, because I would be too uncomfortable to sit there doing nothing while she worked. Another time I paid a guy to stop by every morning for ten or fifteen minutes to make sure that I left for work on time. I was never late even once when he did that, but after he became busy with something else, I never hired a replacement.

    I don’t usually have someone helping me. It feels like hiring an expensive babysitter and I’m ashamed that I would need such a thing as an adult. (I tend to feel lots of shame…) I can reason that an expensive babysitter is better than losing my job, living in squalor, etc. but so far I haven’t been able to change how I feel.