Went in for a crown the other day. The dentist got called away to a different patient midway through. Anesthesia started wearing off. Dentist took her time with the other patient. I was fairly tensed up by the time she got back. I was doing my best to balance being polite with limiting how much the pain affected me. The longer she was gone, the less I was able to pretend I wasn’t in pain. My strategy for pain management is tensing inwards, and I hadn’t raised my voice or cursed. I was waiting for my turn.
A friend who works there later told me that the dentist said I scared her and she thought I was going to harm her. I can’t seem to make sense of that. I can’t think of what threatening behavior I displayed, unless dentists getting attacked by patients is just a thing they have to deal with.
I suggest a new strategy for pain management, have you tried screaming as loudly as you can and making everyone around you uncomfortable until someone helps?
Also to hell with shame, embarassment, and giving a fuck what others think, try spontaneously shouting loudly in public to get used to the idea.
It’s a situational thing. If I hoot and holler and make the dentist tap out, then I’m left with a nearly exposed pulp chamber and then have to find someone willing to jump in midway. If she doesn’t tap out but can’t concentrate on her work, then I get a bad crown and get to pay for a root canal. Being noisy might get a more quick response, but it adds in complications. Expensive and painful complications.