Trans guy here dealing with people constantly talking about me among other shit they’ve done because I’ve always lived in conservative areas. Even other queer people were awful especially gay and trans people.

I’m gonna move but I still won’t be able to afford top surgery yet. I’ve been back on T for a while so I pass for the most part. I wanna go stealth after the move but how can I go stealth in a big city without isolating myself as a straight guy?

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    Stealth isn’t all or nothing. You can be out to the people in your life that matter, you can be out to a local queer community etc, without being out to everyone. You’ll need to take it slowly and work out who you trust, and who knows enough to know the importance of not outing you, but it can be done.

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      1 year ago

      This is great advice! I also think there’s a huge difference in being stealth by choice and stealth by necessity. Making an active choice in this can be great for your wellbeing - the difference between feeling empowered to do this and being required to do it.

      I’d recommend being open to letting trusted people in - one of the biggest struggles of going stealth is the isolation and worry about being outed, and having even one person you can share about this with will make the world of difference.